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Bill Campbell was once described as the “Silicon Valley’s best kept secret” by Fortune.

Bill was a former American Football Coach who became so influential that he worked regularly coaching Steve Jobs and the founders of Google.

The ‘Trillion Dollar Coach’ is written by former CEO of Google, Eric Schmidt, Former Snr Vice President of Google Jonathan Rosenberg, and Director of Google Alan Eagle.

All three of the authors have worked with Bill Campbell throughout their careers and time working at Google and describe the impact the Bill had on the company by saying:

“We can say, without a doubt, that Bill Campbell was one of the people most integral to Google’s success. Without him, the company would not be where it is today.”

Here are 7 lessons that I have taken from the book and from Bill Campbell’s leadership and coaching skills.

1. The difference between a mentor and a coach

“Whereas mentors dole out words of wisdom, coaches roll up their sleeves and get their hands dirty. They don’t just believe in our potential; they get in the arena to help us realize our potential.”

2. The power of listening and being honest

“Scholars would describe Bill’s approach-listening, providing honest feedback, demanding candour as “relational trans-parency,” which is a core characteristic of “authentic leadership.”

3. Solving problems as a team

“His first instinct was always to work the team, not the problem. In other words, he focused on the team’s dynamics, not on trying to solve the team’s particular challenges. That was their job. His job was team building, assessing people’s talents, and finding the doers.”

4. Working towards shared goals

“There is another, equally critical, factor for success in companies: teams that act as communities, integrating interests and putting aside differences to be individually and collectively obsessed with what’s good for the company.”

5. Telling stories to pass on information

“Bill coached me to tell stories. When people understand the story they can connect to it and figure out what to do. You need to get people to buy in.“

6. Invest in making people better

“Most people don’t spend a lot of time thinking about how they are going to make someone else better. But that’s what coaches do.”

7. Human connection creates empathy

“Bill’s approach was to make the human connection first, then approach the work with that understanding.”

Throughout the book, i turned every page waiting to read the moment that describes the skill that Bill Campbell had that made him so unique.

But it never happened.

The truth is, that the majority of the things that Bill did were basic skills that we can all do; listening, building strong teams, creating communities within teams, telling stories for impact, taking time to make people better and connecting with people on a human level.

The final lesson that I took from the book was:

“Being a good coach is essential to being a good manager and leader. Coaching is no longer a specialty; you cannot be a good manager without being a good coach.”

I’ve dipped in and out of this book for years and noted pages and pages of quotes that I regularly reference back to when working with clients.

In this fascinating talk Nancy Durate breaks down some of the most iconic speeches in history to show a pattern, shape and structure that we can apply to our own speeches and presentations.

Nancy is hugely passionate about presentations and the value that they can have.

The world has been and still can be changed through powerful and meaningful presentations.

And just like Chris Anderson’s talk, all presentations and talks h ave to start with an idea.

“The idea has got to be spread, or it won’t be effective. So it has to come out of you and out into the open for people to see. And the way that ideas are conveyed the most effectively is through story.”

A story with the correct structure can be easily consumed and remembered by the listener.

The big question that Nancy asked was; how do you incorporate stories into presentations?

She then goes on to break down structures of stores:

  • A beginning, middle and end
  • A likeable hero
  • A desire
  • A roadblock
  • Overcoming to emerge transformed

What I like is that Nancy highlights that in a presentation or speech, the speaker is not the hero in the story.

If we truly want the audience to engage and have the emotional response we want them to have, the audience have to be the hero, the speaker has to be the mentor.

To present our ideas with the biggest impact, we need the audience to believe that they are the heroes in our story, we create a desire from them through our idea.

Then we bring in the roadblock through creating curiosity, making the audience want to know how they can overcome the roadblock.

And that’s when our idea gives them the transformation in how they think, behave or act.

But to have this impact, Nancy has created a shape which we can all fit our presentations and speeches into so that we can have the desired impact when we tell our stories and share our ideas.

The shape identifies that there are 2 main features

  1. What is
  2. What could be

To break this down further, Nancy explains; “At the beginning of any presentation, you need to establish what is… And then you need to compare that to what could be.”

She goes on to explain that there needs to be a back and forth between the ‘what is’ and the ‘what could be’ to highlight the idea even greater.

Using another tip from Chris Anderson, Nancy goes on to use a sailing metaphor to highlight how her structure works when encountering resistance to your idea.

By working with the resistance in the ‘what is’ and ‘what could be’, just like a sailing boat using the wind to generate more power, the structure helps the presenter pull people towards their idea.

And finally, after the back and forth of using stories, analogies, metaphors to highlight to the audience the ‘what is’ and then the ‘what could be’, the speech or presentation ends with the call to action which should leave the audience transformed.

Nancy goes on to show how she uses this shape as an analysis tool for famous speeches like Steve Jobs and the iPhone launch and the iconic Dr Martin Luther King ‘I Have a Dream’ speech.

I’ve used this talk so many times to work on my own public speaking skills which is why I’ve put it on my Top 5 TED Talks to improve public speaking.

 

This is one of my all time favourite TED Talks.

Julian is a sound and communication expert, author and international key note speaker.

“What would the world be like if we were speaking powerfully to people who were listening consciously in environments which were actually fit for purpose?”

His talk has amassed nearly 40 million views on YouTube and explains to the viewer his ‘Seven Deadly Sins’ of speaking, his four cornerstones to make our speech more powerful, the toolbox we can use to say our speech better, and his speaking warm up exercises.

Julian Treasure’s Seven Deadly Sins of Speaking

  1. Gossip – “Speaking ill of somebody who’s not present”
  2. Judging – “It’s very hard to listen to somebody if you know that you’re being judged
  3. Negativity – “It’s hard to listen to somebody when they’re that negative”
  4. Complaining – “complaining is viral misery, It’s not spreading sunshine and lightness on the world”
  5. Excuses – “They pass it [blame] on to everybody else and don’t take responsibility for their actions”
  6. Embroidery, exaggeration – “exaggeration becomes lying, and we don’t want to listen to people who are lying to us”
  7. Dogmatism – “Confusion of facts with opinion.”

Julian Treasure’s Four Cornerstones – HAIL

Julian talks about his four “really powerful cornerstones, foundations that we can stand on if we want our speech to be powerful and to make change in the world.”

Honesty – Be clear and straight

Authenticity – Be yourself

Integrity – Be your word

Love – Wish them well

Julian Treasure’s Toolbox

According to Julian, we all have a toolbox which contain really powerful tools we can use that will make our speeches much more powerful.

Putting all of these tools together can ensure that when we have something to say, we know that it will have the power and affect that we wanted it to have.

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  • “We vote for politicians with lower voices because we associate depth with power and with authority”

Timbre

  • “We prefer voices which are rich, smooth, warm, like hot chocolate”

Prosody

  • “It’s the root one for meaning in conversation.”

Pace

  • “I can get very excited by saying something really quickly, or I can slow right down to emphasise, and at the end of that, of course, is our old friend silence.”

Pitch

  • “pitch often goes along with pace to indicate arousal, but you can do it just with pitch.”

Volume

  • “Some people broadcast the whole time. Try not to do that. That’s called ‘’sodcasting’.”

There are some really valuable public speaking skills that I have taken from this video as well as the the other TED Talks I use to enhance my public speaking and presentation skills.

Chris Anderson is the head and curator of TED.

So if there’s one person who knows the secret to a great speech it’s him.

In this video, he explains in that there is no such thing as a ‘TED Talk formula’.

But from all of the talks that Chris has listened to and watched, he does point out that there is one thing that they all have in common: A speaker transferring an idea across to an audience.

“Your number one task as a speaker is to transfer into your listeners’ minds an extraordinary gift, a strange and beautiful object that we call an idea.”

He describes an idea as being:

“A pattern of information that helps you understand and navigate the world.”

Ideas can help change how people think about the world and can impact on the actions that the audience take.

Chris then goes on to give his four guidelines on how to build an idea inside the mind of your audience:

1. “Limit your talk to one major idea”
  • Don’t overload the audience with loads of different ideas, focus on the single idea that you are most passionate about.
  • Share examples and paint the picture for the audience to give them context to your idea.  

2. “Give your listeners a reason to care”

  • It’s all about creating curiosity.
  • Identify why something doesn’t make sense by asking the audience questions to get them thinking.
  • Creating a knowledge gap, the audience will need that gap to be bridged through your idea.

3. “Build your idea”

  • Use concepts that the audience already understands.
  • Language is a huge tool when helping people understand your idea, but don’t use complicated and technical language, what language will your audience understand?
  • Using metaphors and analogies help people understand complex ideas and can be a great tool to get your idea across.

4. “Make your idea worth sharing”

  • When crafting your speech, ask yourself who the idea benefits.
  • TED don’t want this to benefit the speaker or a related business or organisation, they want it to benefit the audience.
  • Will your idea brighten up someone’s day, change their perspective on a subject for the better, and/or inspire someone to do something differently?

In this short video, Chris Anderson is able to convey the importance of creating an idea and how to share it with an audience in the most effective way.

I use his 4 guidelines regularly when I am working on creating a new speech.

Here’s my full guide and breakdown of what I believe are the key public speaking skills that can have a huge impact on how you communicate.

Public speaking can be defined in the Cambridge Dictionary as:

“The activity of speaking on a subject to a group of people.”

A lot of the time, we picture public speaking as standing on a stage or platform and speaking out into a vast audience. Or maybe we have an image of standing in a spotlight holding a microphone.

We all have our own perception of what public speaking looks like.

But when we break it down to its simplest form, the reality is that to speak publicly, it is merely speaking to a group of people about a particular subject.

There’s loads of questions that tend to follow that definition:

  • How many people?
  • What am I speaking about?
  • Where am I speaking?
  • How long am I speaking for?
  • When am I speaking?
  • How are the people I’m speaking to going to react?

All of these above questions can vary and for some people, the variables like; who, what, where, when and why can often change for every speaking occasion.

But when it comes to the skill and ability to speak publicly, it’s important to remember that regardless of if you’re speaking to 3 people or 3 million people, it’s often not about what you are saying, it’s about how you say it.

This public speaking guide is designed to provide insights and public speaking tips to help you navigate the complexities and nuances of how to get better at public speaking, ensuring your message is not only heard but also resonates with your audience.

Basics of Effective Communication

For me, when it comes to communicating effectively, the first aspect that is number one is awareness.

  • Awareness of self
  • Awareness of audience
  • Awareness of environment

1. Awareness of Self

Who are you?

Are you the funny one, the serious one, the quiet one or the noisy one?

If you don’t fully know who you are, then how are you supposed to pass on a message and build trust with an audience?

Throughout all of the interviews that I have conducted on the How You Say It podcast, the one key fundamental that shines through is “always be yourself” and the importance of honesty.

And for a lot of people, being yourself can be difficult if you’re not aware of who you really are.

If you don’t normally use big and fancy words, then don’t try and use them.

Frances Frei and Anne Morriss believe that trust has three drivers: Authenticity, Logic and Empathy.

They use these three drivers as points in what they call “The Triangle of Trust”.

Authenticity is all about being the ‘real you’ and making an audience trust who you are.

If the audience trusts you, they’ll trust your message, and if they trust your message, they’ll likely do what you want them to do.

What Are You Doing?

We all have tendencies to do strange things with our bodies when we are speaking publicly.

  • Hide our thumbs in our pockets
  • Clasp our hands
  • Stroke ourselves
  • Hug ourselves
  • Touch our faces

There are loads of signs that our bodies give away when we are nervous or under stress.

And we need to be aware of them.

If you’re aware that you fidget with the paper you’re holding, you need to know what to do to stop it.

You might pace too much, you might fidget with keys in your pocket, your hands might shake.

These are all perfectly common and very normal, the difference between the people who do these cues and the people who don’t is awareness.

Once you become aware that you are of these cues, you can work on strategies on how to catch yourself and stop doing them.

What Are You Saying?

Be aware of what you’re saying.

Sometimes we say things without meaning them.

Sometimes we say things and we didn’t even realise we’d said them.

A slip of the tongue or a lapse in concentration can be fatal when speaking.

Repeatedly using the same word, often unconsciously, can lead us to begin each sentence with fillers such as ‘so’ or ‘obviously’.

“So this is my blog article on public speaking. So the reason behind it is to help people get better at speaking. So when I first started writing this I didn’t realise how silly this looks when it’s written down. So that’s my example.”

Awareness is key to identifying this habit. Once you’re conscious of it, you can take steps to address it.

2. Awareness of Audience

Who are your audience?

Audiences vary with each presentation, making it crucial to understand who you’re speaking to. Recognising this can mean the difference between a resounding success and a complete failure.

Being knowledgeable about your audience’s demographics, such as age, gender, and cultural backgrounds, informs the language, tone, and even the duration of your speech.

Would a room full of hungry kids want to listen to someone speak for more than 2 mins?

Understanding your audience is crucial to customise both your message and delivery style for maximum effect.

If people are at a stand-up comedy gig, they want to laugh, they’re expecting to laugh. So using humour is a fundamental requirement.

However, when people are at a funeral, humour has to be used only if necessary and completely appropriate.

Being aware of your audience helps you prepare and craft a speech that lands.

A lack of awareness can feel like a lack of respect for your audience.

3. Awareness of Environment

William Henry Harrison was the 9th President of the United States.

He holds two presidential records; the longest inaugural address which took nearly 2 hours and, the shortest running presidency in U.S. history.

Harrison died just 31 days after his epic inaugural address, which he did outside on the 4th of March on a cold and wet day without an overcoat or hat.

It is largely believed that his death was related to the cold and ‘flu-like symptoms that he suffered from in the days and weeks after his cold and wet speech.

Pay attention to your surroundings.

Stuart Mitchell, a comedian, emphasised how crucial the setting is for comedy’s success.

He pointed out that factors like inadequate lighting, the vast distance between the audience and the stage, or the absence of a stage altogether can significantly impact the outcome of a performance.

Is the venue overly spacious or uncomfortably cramped? What about the temperature conditions?

Often, these details become apparent only upon arrival at the venue.

Stuart went on to say that on some occasions, he’ll address the environment in his act to try and engage with the audience.

But if it’s a cold and wet day and you’re outdoors, learn from poor old William Henry Harrison and have the awareness to cut your speech short, or make sure you’re wrapped up warm.

Preparation and Delivery

Practice and Preparation

“You can’t practice public speaking, you can only prepare for how you’ll feel when you’re speaking” – DK, The Public Speaking Lesson you Never Had

A lot of people mistaken practice for preparation.

Practice involves repeatedly performing an action, with the aim of enhancing and refining your skills over time

A common error many make is assuming that being able to speak means they don’t need further practice or improvement in their speaking skills.

We can always get better and learn new ways to enhance how we speak.

By practicing, you get yourself used to going through a process.

You can hone your message, you can enhance the language you want to use and you can practice building suspense.

Comedians practice ‘new material’ on audiences to test and refine all the time.

But what’s the difference between practicing and preparing?

If you practice a speech, you’ll begin to learn it word for word.

However, simply memorising your speech word for word doesn’t necessarily prepare you for the emotions you’ll experience during delivery.

Are you ready for the audience’s response to your words?

Have you considered how to handle potential disruptions, such as a lapse in memory or a momentary loss of focus?

We might avoid contemplating such situations, viewing them as the worst-case outcomes, yet being prepared for these eventualities can instil confidence and readiness to tackle them effectively.

For me, it’s about doing the preparation first.

Thorough preparation demonstrates to your audience that you have considered their perspective, adding depth and significance to your message.

Incorporating references to particular individuals or events familiar to the audience can help establish a connection between you and them.

Prepare for how people might react to what you are saying.

Before you begin writing or practicing, you need to think about how you want people to feel during your speech.

That begins the process of how to craft the message and the objective of the speech.

When it comes to preparing a speech, I focus on the process of Facts – Feeling – Actions.

  • Facts – What do I know and what do I want my audience to know by the end of my speech?
  • Feelings – How do I want to make my audience feel? What emotions do I want to trigger?
  • Action – What action do I want the audience to take after my speech?

For me, visualisation is key, I begin to picture how my speech will flow.

I contemplate the delivery of specific segments, identifying which parts should carry the greatest impact and strategising on how to achieve that effect.

I prepare for people’s responses.

What if someone disagrees or challenges me?

What If people don’t find the punchline funny enough?

And this is when I begin to move into the practice part of my preparation.

I practice how I want to say the speech. I practice telling the story I want to use to deliver the key message.

I say it out loud, I think about it, I think about how it could sound with a different tone or different language and I say it again.

And I repeat the process over and over and over again.

I’m always nervous before I begin any speaking engagement, but those nerves are more excitement than anxiety.

Anxiety and stress come down to a lack of control.

However, with adequate preparation, consistent practice, and adherence to your methodology, you’ll maintain control, effectively reducing stress and anxiety.

Choosing Your Topic

The easiest thing in the world to talk about is yourself.

We all have a story to tell, the only thing that makes it interesting or not is how we tell it to people.

The first speech I ever did was an ‘About Yourself’ speech.

It wasn’t a life story from birth to the current moment I was in, but it was a speech explaining to the audience who I was and why I was speaking to them.

Know Your Topic

The point of that speech was that nobody knows you as well as you know yourself.

And when it comes to speaking publicly about a particular topic, you need to know what you’re talking about.

If the audience gets the smallest of hints that you don’t know what you are talking about, they’ll lose trust and begin to feel uneasy.

That uneasiness will begin to spread and if you become aware of it, you’ll become uneasy.

There’s a huge difference between being vulnerable (which is often a good thing) and being out of your depth.

Vulnerability can build trust, but faking it in front of people who know the topic better than you do, can kill trust completely.

Know what you’re talking about.

Knowledge is powerful, but be careful not to be too knowledgeable.

Stay away from using jargon and complex language which can highlight how knowledgeable you are on the topic, but isolate people in the audience who don’t know what you mean.

It becomes a fine balance in knowing how to tread this line, but that’s why preparation and awareness become so important.

It’s not what you say, it’s How You Say It

The execution of each speech holds significant weight.

If the delivery isn’t right, the focus, message, and entire purpose of the speech risk being overlooked by the audience.

Once you know who the audience is, the intention of the speech, and the message you want to hit home, you need to know how you’re going to deliver it.

The two main parts of the brain that we use during communication are the prefrontal cortex and the limbic system.

The prefrontal cortex functions largely on logic and rational thought, while the limbic system is mainly governed by emotions.

These two parts of the brain can operate as opposites which is often why we find ourselves feeling conflicted between logic and emotion, often referred to as ‘head vs heart’.

The limbic system is the part of the brain that processes what we see, hear and feel instantly, it i is linked to our instinctual ‘fight, flight, or freeze’ reactions.

This is the part of our brain that picks up on body language, facial expression and tone of voice.

If someone is speaking in an aggressive tone, raising their voice, has an angry look on their face and are clenching their fists, our brain will recognise this as a threat and respond with a ‘fight, flight or freeze’ reaction.

Whereas, if someone has a smile on their face, raised eyebrows, uses softer tones and has their arms open towards us, we will process this as open and welcoming and not threatening.

In these scenarios, the focus isn’t on the spoken words themselves but rather on the speaker’s actions and the manner in which they communicate.

Non-verbal communication conveys messages without the need for spoken words.

Body language plays a crucial role in communication, revealing a great deal through our physical actions, whether we’re speaking or silent.

And this is a hugely powerful tool that can be used to emphasise the intention and message we want to deliver when we speak.

Speaking quickly can emphasise urgency, speaking quietly can build suspense, using a strict and direct tone can ensure people understand that you are serious.

Raising your eyebrows, opening your body with your palms up and smiling is a welcoming gesture and will make your audience feel comfortable and not threatened.

By learning about body language, you can use them as tools to manipulate how we want our audience to feel before we’ve even said a word.

However, if what your body language contradicts what you are saying, then this will cause confusion with the audience.

Confusion can foster doubt, potentially undermining the audience’s trust in you and your message.

Even with an exceptionally inspiring and motivational speech prepared, its impact and intention will be diminished if presented with uncertain body language and a monotone delivery.

It’s important to know about non-verbal communication and how much impact we can create through how we use our voice and body language.

“Communication is the transfer of emotions” – Seth Godin

Overloading speeches and presentations with information, stats and facts won’t generate emotional responses and we don’t know how much of that information will be remembered.

They’ll remember how they felt.

Stats, facts and information are processed by the prefrontal cortex which has rational and logic but no emotion.

If we want to create an emotional response, we need to communicate to the limbic system.

I’m not saying that you shouldn’t use stats, facts and figures in your speeches. Often these are important elements and it might even be the reason for speaking publicly in the first place, e.g. presenting sales figures to investors.

However, listing them and presenting them in a PowerPoint might look good and will get the necessary information in front of everyone who needs to see it.

But will it have the desired impact and generate an emotional response?

Tell the Story

It is thought that the ancient hieroglyphics were religious stories being passed through generation to generation.

We learn important messages throughout our childhood from stories being told or read to us.

We can use stories to emphasise the intention and message we want to deliver when we speak.

Why dull the audience with an overload of numbers, data, and pie charts in a sales presentation when you can captivate them with a story woven through the figures?

  1. Set the scene by providing context.
  2. Introduce characters.
  3. Identify the conflict or challenge to overcome.
  4. Describe the journey – what did you do to overcome the challenges?
  5. Highlight key moments – talk about the ups and the downs.
  6. Finish with the lesson/message/call to action.

Plot development is the way in which a story unfolds. The most simple form of telling a story is having a beginning, middle and ending.

But within all good stories, there is character development, twists and turns and an ending with meaning or purpose or a call to a action.

The teller knows where the story is going, the audience is on a journey with the speaker, but they don’t know where they will be taken.

Telling a good story involves knowing how to create intrigue through pace, tone, language and following a plot that develops right up to the end.

If you master how to tell a story, you’ll be able to get your point across, share knowledge and create influence with your audience.

Stories are the best way to communicate with emotion and meaning. People remember them, they remember how they felt when hearing the story and they’ll learn from the moral and the message of the story.

If you master how to tell a story, you’ll be able to get your point across, share knowledge and create influence with your audience.

Stories are the best way to communicate with emotion and meaning. People remember them, they remember how they felt when hearing the story and they’ll learn from the moral and the message of the story.

I’ve been doing a lot more public speaking recently, and I’m absolutely loving it. There’s something about being in front of a group of people and speaking that just makes me happy.

People often view ‘public speaking’ as delivering keynote speeches to rooms, lecture theatres, or stages with hundreds or thousands of people watching and listening.

But actually, speaking in public can be as simple as presenting or speaking to a room of 3-5 people. Public speaking is mainly defined as ‘speaking in front of a live audience.‘ And for many people, this can be a terrifying thought.

I never knew and still don’t fully know if speaking can be a profession. But what I do know is that it’s something I love doing, and I want to explore as many different avenues of it as possible.

Putting my training hat on, I decided to jot down some of the key points that I follow when it comes to preparing and delivering a presentation or speaking in public.

If anyone would like to find out more information on this and would like to be a guinea pig for a speaking and communication coaching session, then please drop me a message.

Disclaimer: This is my own process and what I do. There will be other people who use completely different or similar processes, but this is what I do.

  1. Know the message: Before I go out to deliver training sessions, presentations, or speak to people, I always have a message that is to be delivered. Basically, what is the one thing that I want everyone to take away from what I have said? This keeps me on track, and I know this will be the ‘through line’ of the whole speech or presentation.
  2. Focus points: Have points to focus on. Less is more in this sense. I don’t want to bombard people with too much information, and I don’t want to try and squeeze too much in. Keep it simple and use these focus points to emphasise the message being delivered.
  3. Tell a story: People love stories, and we communicate best through telling stories. I like to relate all my presentations or speeches to a story or anecdote that I can connect to the main message or use to deliver on the focus points.
  4. Simple structure – Beginning – Middle – End: There’s nothing fancy or scientific about this. Keep it simple and know where you are in the structure at all times. A strong opening to grab people’s attention, bring in the relatable focus points in the middle, and then deliver and emphasise the message and/or call to action at the end.
  5. Power of emotion: We all communicate through emotion. Humour, body language, and using variety in my voice help me emphasise the emotion I want to get across at certain parts. Am I being serious, am I being funny, or am I trying to leave an impact? The only way the audience will know this is how I use my own emotions with them.
  6. Engage with the audience: Make them feel part of it. You really have to know the audience for this to know exactly what level of engagement you want or need. But, make them feel part of it, ask questions and encourage actions. Interactive presentations keep people tuned in and focused on what you are saying.
  7. Know your audience: This is one of the biggies for me. Understand and know who you are speaking to. How are they feeling? How can I empathises with them so that they know that I know them and their needs? I try to find out as much about who will be in the room as I can. Then I can gauge how I’ll deliver the message and how I can make my presentation/speech as relatable as possible.
  8. Visualise: I’m a big lover of visualisation. In the build-up to every presentation, training course, or speaking engagement I visualise constantly right up to the point I begin. In my mind, I’m picturing how people will react to certain points, what I will do in certain moments, how I will emphasise what I want to get across, and what to do if something doesn’t go to plan. Usually, I visualise being carried out on top of a cheering crowd chanting my name, but that’s still not happened yet…
  9. Practice – Analyse – Practice: My wife will tell anyone that I rarely shut up. And she’ll clarify from overhearing me that I constantly talk to myself in the toilet and the shower. I have an inner and outer dialogue, and it’s always on. If I have a topic in my mind, I’m practicing it in my head and out loud. Then when I think it’s ready, I’ll practice it on a group or in a speech. I’ll analyse how it went and what needs tweaking, practice it again and again and again, and keep doing it.
  10. Keep it flexible: I don’t like to have restrictive boundaries. Time can be the main one. I have a ‘web’ in my mind of topics, anecdotes, stories, and jokes (some funnier than others) that I can pick out and use in an instant. When I’m practicing, I’ll use these together or in different orders. I try not to use notes, but if I do, I use them as prompts so I don’t need to read and talk at the same time. If it’s flexible, I can cut bits out or add bits in as I’m going, and that way I can make it as long or as short as I need it to be and also make it personal to the audience.
  11. Enjoy the silence: In many cases when speaking publicly, silence is golden. This wasn’t the case when I did the quietest 5 minutes of comedy material at The Stand in Edinburgh. But silence can be your friend. Use it to pace yourself and use it to emphasise points. Just don’t fill silence with ‘umms’ or ‘ehs’.

I’ve tried to put my own points down to explain my own process when it comes to delivering presentations and speaking in public. I’ve read plenty of blogs and listened to loads of podcasts on this, and some of these points will be consistent with what other people do too.

It was actually quite hard to put these down in a list as it’s become something that is almost second nature to me now.

find out more about public speaking with my full guide and breakdown of Public Speaking Skills.

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